The principles of persuasion
In one sentence
Six shortcuts make people more likely to say yes: reciprocity, commitment, social proof, authority, liking and scarcity.
The simple version
Our brains use shortcuts to make quick decisions. Robert Cialdini found six that show up again and again. Used honestly, they help customers decide with confidence.
Reciprocity
Give first
Commitment
Small yes, then big yes
Social proof
Show others doing it
Authority
Show expertise
Liking
Be genuine & similar
Scarcity
Honest limits
Why it matters
Your website, sales calls and emails all work better when they line up with how people actually decide.
How to do it
- 1Reciprocity: give something useful first (a free guide, advice).
- 2Commitment: start with a small yes (a free trial) before a big one.
- 3Social proof: show reviews, logos and numbers.
- 4Authority: share credentials, press and expertise.
- 5Liking: be friendly, similar and genuine.
- 6Scarcity: be honest about real limits (spots, time).
Real-world example
A course page offers a free lesson (reciprocity), shows 2,000 student reviews (social proof) and says the cohort closes Friday (scarcity).
What the books say
People follow a few reliable mental shortcuts when deciding: reciprocity, commitment and consistency, social proof, authority, liking and scarcity.
Common mistakes
- Fake scarcity or fake reviews — it destroys trust.
- Using all six at once until it feels pushy.
- Forgetting the product still has to be good.
Questions people ask
Is this manipulation?
It becomes manipulation when it's dishonest. Using real proof and real limits simply helps people decide.
References
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